The psychologist revealed the danger of child spoilage

A spoiled child may outwardly look like a problem in his development. About this in an interview with the publication “Newspaper.ru”said a practicing psychologist and co-founder of the kindergarten Infant School Khamovniki Natalia Derbeneva.

She noted that parents often believe that a spoiled child is harmless, and this is a dangerous delusion. A pronounced emotional reaction that does not correspond to age, for example, to an adult’s unwillingness to buy a new thing is often manipulation. According to the expert, the child’s habit of getting everything he wants without any effort and only through tantrums in the future will only provide difficulties in communication and problems with motivation, will become a source of private disappointments, because little in life happens the way you want.

The difficulty on the part of parents lies in the fact that many do not even perceive the spoiled child as a problem. Adults rarely come to consultations with psychologists on such a problem. “This is due to the fact that in society there was a lot of talk about the need to accept any behavior of the child and allow it as much as possible,” says Derbeneva. – The difficulty is that with age, this spoiledness can look like developmental problems. Parents today are very surprised when you tell them during a consultation that the child is absolutely healthy, but utterly spoiled and pedagogically neglected.

According to the expert, if it was not possible to prevent spoilage, then it is important that parents change their attitude to education and teach the child independence.

Earlier psychologists told “MK”, ​​how monetary rewards for grades can affect a student’s performance. The day before, Anna Skroznikova, a deputy from the New People party, sent Prime Minister Mikhail Mishustin a proposal to reward high school students for “excellent” grades. Experts see both positive and negative aspects in this initiative. In particular, child psychologist Daria Dugentsova argues that this system can only work if children have the opportunity not only to receive money for “fives”, but also to lose them if they receive “twos”.