The details of the sale by the mother of her 7-year-old son were revealed: she wanted to please her husband

The discussion of the egregious story that happened the other day in Yekaterinburg does not subside – 26-year-old Nargiza A. decided to sell her 7-year-old son from her first marriage for 300 thousand rubles to complete strangers. Allegedly in order to “cover debts.” Later it turned out that her son simply did not please her new husband, with whom she has two common children.

The boy is lucky. Under the guise of “buyers”, the unfortunate mother was contacted by representatives of a volunteer organization that rescues people from various types of slavery. As a result, the woman was detained and charged under the article “Human trafficking”. She faces up to 10 years in prison.

– There are many such groups dedicated to the transfer of the child. Conventionally, they are called “Who wants to take / give the child up for adoption”, “I will give the child,” Alternativa volunteer Arina told MK. – In one of them, Nargiza posted an ad that she wants to give the child to the family. Our subscriber, who saw this ad, began to communicate with her, introducing herself as a potential mother of the boy, who wants to take him into her family. She found out that he was a boy of seven years old and that he was her eldest son from a previous husband. And that the new husband and this son of hers cannot find a common language. She also said that the man provides for her and their two joint children, but does not want to spend money on this boy and offends him. And she does not have the opportunity to dress him normally, or feed him. But supposedly his mother wants him a better life, and therefore decided to sell it to another family. The subscriber handed over their correspondence to us, and then we communicated with her.

“The boy is bright, smart, calm,” the mother advertised her “product” in correspondence, attaching a photo of her son, as if it were a puppy or a kitten … The price was set at 300 thousand rubles. Later, she explained that she wanted to pay off her debts, including repaying the debt for her mother’s operation. It is reported that the woman also participated in groups where kidney and liver donation were actively discussed …

As follows from Nargiza’s correspondence, she repeatedly clarified with the “buyer”: “Will you definitely pick it up? And then two more families wrote to me that they want to take it away. ”

The next question left for the volunteers was where and how to make this “deal”.

– We offered her Moscow, because with the Moscow criminal investigation department we already had such completed cases. They explained to her that the boy should look at us, his new parents, and at the new house. But the woman refused to go to the capital, referring to the fact that “she needs to pick up her child from kindergarten.” Therefore, we flew to Yekaterinburg, – says Arina. – We asked her how we will pick him up, what if he refuses to fly with us, is he already an adult? To which the mother replied: “He is aware that he will be taken away, he really wants and waits for this” – after all, she told him that his own father would take him. In this case, the husband of our conditional customer was to act as a “father”.

Since the boy never saw his own father, he even has a dash in his birth certificate, any man would pass for dad … But the unfortunate mother did not even ask what kind of people her child would go to.

In Yekaterinburg, volunteers contacted the police, and they helped make a “deal”. At the time of handing over the child to the “buyers” in the shopping center, as soon as the mother received money for him and wrote a receipt, she was detained.

Interestingly, the current husband of Nargiza, who allegedly disliked a non-native child, swore to the investigator that he knew nothing about this situation, and was ready to confirm his words on a polygraph. He was released because there were no grounds for detention. It also turned out that the family was not in poverty at all. And this may mean that the mother decided to get rid of her son, only in order to please the new roommate. “Perverts, pedophiles could buy him and tear him in half – and she doesn’t care, as long as the roommate is satisfied,” residents of Yekaterinburg are indignant.

The court determined the measure of restraint for the soulless mother – she was taken into custody for two months. The issue of depriving her of parental rights in relation to other children is being discussed. According to information from the investigation, a letter has already been sent to the guardianship authorities, which should decide their fate.

The rejected child is now in a rehabilitation center. Guardianship authorities establish his relatives, which of them could take him into the family. If there are no volunteers, the child will end up in an orphanage.

Family psychologist Elena Ulitova, to whom MK turned for comments, expressed the hope that “the boy will never know these details.”

– Rejection and devaluation of the most important person – the mother – is the worst thing that can happen in a person’s life, – says Elena Ulitova. – The followers of the psychologist Eric Berne identified “12 orders” that adults broadcast to their children when they show their negative attitude to them on an unconscious level. And the most severe of them – “Do not be!” or “Don’t live!” (“Get out!”, “Die!”). Others – “Don’t be important!”, “Don’t grow up!”, and so on. Here, quite clearly, the mother refuses the child, and not only refuses, but sells. And if the boy knew the details, it would lead to grave consequences for his psyche. Usually the human psyche displaces various difficult experiences. But the trauma of attachment remains and leads to greater difficulties in creating relationships in the future and problems with self-esteem. Even aside from a terrible situation like this, there are quite a few people with attachment trauma. A person considers himself bad, thinks that it is impossible to love him. This leads to failure in career and personal relationships with a partner, depression, and sometimes even suicide. Attachment trauma can even arise from a lack of attention if mom and dad work hard. And here is complete rejection.