The widow of Grachevsky spoke about otherworldly activity: “I hear my husband’s steps in the house”

– Ekaterina, you did not give an interview after the departure of Boris Grachevsky, so we can only judge your life by social networks. How did you get through this difficult time?

– I just started to move away, but I can’t say that I completely moved away. The worst thing for me is the cemetery, of course, I go there with a heaviness in my soul. This also affected my health. First, covid has affected. And when it happened, I turned gray in one day. I didn’t know that this happens, but my head became gray.

And I lost 10 kg in one day. I began to weigh 43 kilograms, it was terrible. At first, I had no appetite at all – a piece did not climb into my throat. Many people say that when you are nervous, you seize, I had the opposite. And then, slowly, I began to eat through “I don’t want” a child to eat next to me. But now I’m at a normal weight.

How is Philip doing now?

– The child is such a cutie. It is developing, I don’t have a soul in it, I’m happy that it exists.

Are the character traits of Boris Grachevsky already manifesting in him?

– Yes, in my opinion, everything in his character is from his dad: he is such a Skoda! For example, you tell him: Filechka, why are you so naughty? And he replies: “I’m a naughty doll” – and smiles. Well, you’re melting, and that’s it. Phil is a miracle of miracles. He makes me laugh, makes me smile, enjoy life. How to soak something – even stand, even fall.

– Have you already been sent to all circles? Now it is fashionable among mothers …

– I’m terribly afraid of covid, so he studies wherever possible, but online. This includes English, Hebrew, and developing activities in a playful way. He is still learning languages ​​at the children’s level: the alphabet, some songs. But I still can’t say anything about his abilities, it’s always funny to me when they say about a three-year-old child: he is talented in this or that. They all sing and dance at this age! Of course, his parents are creative, but what if he becomes a mathematician or becomes interested in politics, I don’t know! I’m not going to put pressure on the child at all.

– Not all children learn Hebrew in less than three years …

– Yes, but I did it so that he would not forget his roots. I am going to send him to a Jewish school in the future, especially since we have it nearby. I myself made this decision: Borya always remembered his roots. I got in line, called the school to find out the situation in the future – very nice people work there. There are the same subjects as in a regular school, but the advantage is that the language is taught by native speakers.

– And what do the teachers say about Philip’s success?

The teachers say he is a very smart boy. This makes me happy. He is not yet three years old, and he knows by heart “Moydodyr”, “Fly-Tsokotukha”.

– And who taught the young child prodigy the poetry of Chukovsky?

– We all taught him here: both I and my mother – together, in chorus. I can say for sure that he has a very good memory. You read to him, he remembers it. Considering that my mother has a pedagogical education, she is a kindergarten teacher by her first education, she knows how to raise a child. But we don’t have a nanny, and we can easily cope without her. You can combine everything: both work and home. A child is not a burden – it is such happiness.

– Do you have any work now? New projects, ideas?

– I have a project planned, but I can’t say yet what it will be, because there are contractual obligations. It has nothing to do with vocal direction or acting. It’s just a project that interests me personally.

In general, I really like to develop a child, to study issues of relationships with children, child psychology. I get tremendous pleasure from studying, but even more pleasure – when I see the return from the child. The son is in a relaxed state, does not tense up, and at the same time, his knowledge is added. This is the biggest thrill. I read books, I buy a lot of courses all the time – I’m a bit of a crazy mother in this regard.

– You have always paid attention to a healthy lifestyle before and taught your husband to it. Is there fitness in the life of Ekaterina Belotserkovskaya now?

Do you want fitness? Have a baby and you won’t need fitness at all. As for nutrition, I have been on some kind of diet all my life. I try to eat right, but I can’t say that I eat only lettuce leaves. I don’t really like meat, I like seafood, fish, although I often allow myself far from dietary products. I can easily eat cakes, chocolates – a couple of times a week I allow myself everything I want.

– Boris Yuryevich did not demand to stop this whole story with diets?

– He said, of course: “Sit down, eat, why don’t you want anything, it’s impossible!” But I have a unique organism: there is no such thing that I want to eat so much that it is impossible to stop. That’s why I keep dieting calmly.

– Katya, do you now live outside the city where you used to live with your spouse, or have you moved to a Moscow apartment?

No, we don’t live in the house. Outside the city it is impossible to live with a child without a car. I don’t drive. But you need to constantly go to the clinic, get vaccinated. Besides, I’m afraid to live in the house. Not because something could happen there, just when the coronavirus pandemic began, we lived in this house for the last year and a half. My entire pregnancy passed there, and after the birth of Fili, Borya decided that the child should live outside the city for up to a year in order to breathe clean air.

I get the feeling in this house that Borya walks there, such an eerie state. And I was crying all the time in this house. I can’t lie down in our bed in the house because he slept there, I can still smell him, it hurts me. In general, I decided to move to Moscow.

– Recently there was information that some progress has appeared in the case of the legacy of Boris Grachevsky, about the fate of Yeralash. Can you tell something about it?

– To be honest, I myself do not know what progress has occurred there, I do not understand yet, but I hope so. I sincerely wish Yeralash all the best. And that’s what lawyers do. I understand that I need to think about the child, and not about it all.

– Well, at least they are not expelled from housing?

– Not yet. The house is standing, we will most likely share it, but how else? Of course, this is a memory, I don’t want to sell the house, but I’m not alone. In general, it’s hard for me to talk about all this and I don’t even feel like it, because I understand that I have to do it. I don’t want to get upset.

– When this tragedy happened, who supported you in the first place?

– Vitorgans, Vladimir Dolinsky, Mark Varshaver helped me a lot then and are helping me now. Relatives are always in touch: all Boris’s sisters, nephews, his brother is always there. Recently we were at the birthday party of Vitorganov’s daughter Eteri, she was five years old. There were animators, face painting, paper disco, soap bubbles. Filya lit, played, did not want to leave …

– Last year, a monument appeared on the grave of Boris Grachevsky. It is clear that this is not an easy task and quite costly. Who helped with the installation?

– On January 14, 2022, a monument was erected with the help of Borya’s friends and just good people, they did not demand money from me. I am extremely grateful for this monument to Mark Varshaver and Evgeny Gerasimov – they introduced me to a very good man named Dmitry, who was the owner of a monument manufacturing company. I am especially grateful considering the state I was in the first year after Boris left. I am even scared when I sometimes see my photos of that period on my phone.

Warsawer called and said: “Let’s get on with the installation of the monument, you will somehow be distracted.” The monument was made very beautiful, Dmitry and I drew everything, designed it, approved it down to every letter. The monument was erected taking into account Borya’s traditions. For example, there is no cross. And it also has a very beautiful photograph of Borya, which was made in a special complicated way so that it does not fade – there is a special coating. The photo turned out incredible, and he is just like alive in it.

Was that his favorite photo?

— Yes, this is both his favorite photo and mine. I sent several pictures to the creators of the monument to choose from, and we chose this one. This portrait of Boris was taken at the beginning of our relationship.

– You had to go through a lot after the departure of Boris Yuryevich, can you advise something to those who find themselves in a similar situation?

– I get a lot of messages on social networks from women who find themselves in a similar situation. They ask: “How to cope? How to be? I cannot answer this question. I myself still can not cope, how can I give someone advice? But I can say for sure that time does not heal, psychologists will definitely not help. There is no answer here – it is impossible to cope. For me, salvation was in Phil, that’s all. Because if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have a reason to live.

– How do you keep the memory of Boris Grachevsky now?

— I saved all the photos, all the magazines with him. All of his elephants, which he collected, are in the same places in the apartment where they were. I just wipe the dust and I’m afraid not to damage them. I had to rearrange from the lower shelves, however, because Filya is now active and demolishes everything. It was a painful moment for me, I didn’t want to touch anything. But I took a picture of how it was – then I will return everything to its place.

And I am also writing a book for his anniversary, in which there will not be a drop of dirt, but only the best and most beautiful. It will include his poems that he wrote to me, interesting statements and, of course, my story about what he is like. Because there is no one like him.

How often did he write poetry to you?

– When we had a candy-bouquet period, he generally wrote every day. I wondered all the time, how does he do it and how is this possible? When we were already a family, if I was away or he wrote to me at night during separation. He sent the poem in a WhatsApp message, and then he called and read it himself.