Psychologist Golovanova explained what to do if the child does not want to go to school

Five important points

The first day of school on September 1 is like a first date, either it was a success or not, as school psychologists say. It happens that a first-grader from the Day of Knowledge falls in love with the school and new comrades from the first school line, and sometimes vice versa. But here’s what parents should do in this case “on the contrary” if their beloved child cries, resists and begs not to take him more “to this terrible place” …

“The most important thing is to understand the reason,” says child psychologist Veronika Golovanova. – This should be done first. Once you understand the reason, you can figure out how to motivate your child.

Some children are affected by the opposite method, as adults say, “weakly”. And you show this boy that you are not afraid of him (if the behavior of one of the new comrades caused rejection). Or confident support: you are no worse than them (if someone recited a poem on the line, sang, danced so that your child lost self-confidence). The reasons can be very different, it is important to find and install them. Parents who love their children usually know them well, and it will be easy for them to do this.

In support and as a reminder to those who can hear from their first-grader on Monday the ill-fated “I won’t go for anything” 5 important points.

Turn your routine into an adventure. If your child has a rich imagination and a creative mindset, try to turn the school into a fairy-tale kingdom in your story (and in his imagination), where good triumphs over evil, but he needs help protecting bright phenomena – knowledge, friendship, peace, fairies, carrying knowledge, etc.

Some children are not afraid of the school itself, but of the “official” vocabulary that is difficult to understand, with the help of which parents and teachers try to give it significance – from now on, discipline, tasks, regimen, responsibility, etc. All this can make a heavy impression on impressionable children restrictions on their freedom.

Ask about the school, and listen carefully to the answers, do not interrupt or lecture. When a person, even a small one, is full of new sensations and questions, it is very important for him to express them, voice them and thus let go.

Do not hesitate to seek the help of a teacher if you cannot figure out the reason for your child’s rejection of school on your own. Experienced first-graders have a rich experience in this, they are very observant. Perhaps the teacher will be the first to tell you that, for example, a classmate laughed at your daughter’s hair, hence the reluctance to study at school. And with this you can already work.

Do not be afraid to contact the pediatrician if the child is already very stressed from school. Sometimes a simple soothing herbal collection solves the whole problem without help. Suitable for those cases when all the rejection occurs only because the child is overexcited against the backdrop of new realities that have burst into his life.

Don’t be boring! And here, perhaps, is the most important thing. Often the child is exhausted not by the school itself, but by the parents who give it super-importance. They worry about her so much that their child begins to fear that he will not live up to their expectations. Remember that the best is the enemy of the good, and don’t overdo it. Of course, school is important – but not more important than health, family, love, friendship and a sincere thirst for knowledge.