Mobilized in the first place: how to support your man

If your loved one was drafted into the armed forces as part of partial mobilization, the main thing is to tell him all the words of love and hope, all the good things that you have not said to him before. We have collected advice from psychologists on how to morally support men.

We cannot always influence the course of events, but we are always responsible for our internal state and the state of our loved ones. The biggest concern is the thought that a loved one may die or be injured, that this is the last meeting or the last evening together.

To overcome anxiety, try to find out all the details of what and how is happening with your husband, son, brother. The process of clarifying information gives us time to recover and stabilize. A person experiences a similar feeling when he is unwell – he understands that something is wrong, but does not know how serious it is. When all the details become clear, the anxiety subsides.

Accept your anxiety

Accept your anxiety, don’t be afraid of it, don’t feel guilty, and don’t be angry with yourself. In any incomprehensible situation, the main thing is not to get stuck in anxiety, but to begin to control it. It is also important to talk openly with your son or husband and find out how he feels about this situation, what emotions the prospect of mobilization evokes. Perhaps there are many nuances that can completely change your attitude to what is happening. It is much easier to deal with any experience when we understand its meaning.

Undoubtedly, after this experience, you will no longer look at life with the same eyes that you looked at yesterday. Many things will seem insignificant, and the most important will come to the fore.

Not everyone goes on the attack

Do not think that everyone who is called now will participate in the battles directly. The military usually requires a lot of support personnel to drive vehicles, establish communications, and deliver supplies.

get busy

Think about how to organize your life without a loved one who can help you with this. Try not to look for bad news on the Internet, do not watch television from morning to evening. Spend all your free time doing useful things and learn something new. When your loved one returns, you can surprise them with your new skills.

Hope for the best and pass this hope on to your children, do not scare them with complex assumptions and do not devote to your fears, and also exclude communication with people who can bring you negativity.

Believe in good

Gather all the strength within yourself and see a loved one without despair and tantrums. It is very important to charge him with your energy and confidence. Believe that he will return, that it will be so, and nothing else.

To calm down, you can start keeping a diary and write down your thoughts and feelings in it. In ordinary life, do not walk with your head down, do not stop smiling and try to do it as often as possible. Read a good book that can help you now.

If what is called “covering” you, you cannot cope with emotions, try to seek support and help from people who can provide it, relatives or psychologists.

Opinion – Olga Mazur, psychologist:

– Relatives and friends, first of all, need to switch from anxious thoughts about potential dangers that may lie in wait for a loved one, to the current moment of life. Yes, there are no guarantees in the combat zone, anything can happen there. However, thinking about and inventing negative scenarios does not affect how these events actually develop. Therefore, it is better to focus on the daily aspects of life.

If your thoughts are again revolving around an unpleasant picture, abruptly switch your attention to what you are doing right now. And it is better to change the situation and the business that you are currently doing.

For example, if you are looking for news on the Internet, turn off your gadget and go to the nearest grocery store for a quiet family dinner, watch a good movie, or find out how your child is doing at school. That is, turn on now. This is the most healthy and rational approach.