Can the nap rhyme with sex?

Levocation of a body, lying on a bed, in the middle of the day, can arouse various desires. That of rest, of a moment of calm finally found, of stillness, of gentle breathing. Or that of crumpled sheets, messy hair, the smell of sweat and images forbidden to under 16s.

Which one to choose, when two paths are available to you, the possibility of a siesta and that of a less restful, but more exciting parenthesis?

“If you want a time of individual resource, the desire of the other can prove to be intrusive and painful” – Capucine Moreau, sexologist

If time is short and the holidays are right for it, there is no need to make a choice. One can follow the other, the order does not matter. For a couple alone at home (or in a hotel), everything is possible, provided that the two halves agree on the intentions. “It happens that after the meal, one of the two says: “I am going to take a nap” and that the other answers: “Hmm, I follow you”remarks the sexologist Capucine Moreau. But we have to agree on what we mean by “nap”. If it’s a code to make this quiet time an intimate and erotic couple’s time. Or if one wishes an individual resource time, in which case the desire of the other can prove to be intrusive and painful. »

The body rhythm gives the “the”. For some, this time devoted to digestion, when the belly is as heavy as the eyelids, does not go well with somersaults. When others see it as an opportunity, after dessert, to put the icing on the cake.

Do not wake the children…

And then… for some of the couples, there are the children. Who sleep – or not – in the next room. If we opt for an intimate moment, obviously, we must think about making the bedroom a safe space: teach toddlers to knock on the door, pull the lock or simply jam the handle with a chair. The risk of being interrupted may inhibit some parents, while others will find the constraint of silence particularly exciting, will make the duvet a cocoon from which nothing escapes, where each gesture is reduced to a minimum, where the he narrowed space concentrates all the attention and multiplies the sensations.

“I find it nice, in couples that last, to be able to find new niches”, says the sexologist again

Finally, the siesta, when it is scheduled, can become an appointment of choice. “I find it great, in couples that last, to be able to find new niches, to avoid the evening ritual which can be potentially anxiety-provoking”, notes Capucine Moreau. In his book Erotic creativity in the couple (La Musardine, 2020), she scratches the myth of spontaneity: “On a daily basis, we rarely have the same desire at the same time, spontaneously. So it can be good to voluntarily free up time in the agenda for an intimate date, like when we weren’t living together yet. »

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