Why he does not call: what could be the reasons and how to react

When a man does not call, most women begin to analyze: what did I do wrong and what could have been done differently? For some, there is panic and overwhelming anxiety, because it becomes more and more likely that he will never call again and will not want to meet again. The woman begins to think: “Maybe he is doing something important. And what? Or did he find someone else? How insensitive and cruel of him!”

In fact, the partner may not call for the following reasons: he tends to act rather than talk; he was tired of claims made on the phone; he doesn’t appreciate calls as much as you do; he thinks you are not interested in him. And finally, he really does not intend to continue the relationship.

It is worth noting here that pain and suffering in relationships become the lot of not only women, but also men who try to present their partner as the same as themselves. The paradox is that people are looking for a partner with the opposite sexual energy, but then they try to make their boyfriend or girlfriend look like themselves. And it’s like trying to turn a whale into a giraffe.

Call me, call…

So why doesn’t the man call? Let’s say he just doesn’t know how important it is to you. In this case, you should just tell him about it, but without tantrums and scandals. If you mean a lot to him, you will definitely be heard.

Also, do not forget that men are emotionally more distant than women, so almost none of them have a habit of talking on the phone a lot in order to be filled with positive feelings or feel safe in a relationship. They would rather solve problems than have meaningless conversations, as they see it.

If you constantly answer the phone in an unhappy voice, this can also discourage you from calling. If every time he calls you try to hint in a hysterical tone that something is wrong, guess what will happen? Most likely it happened.

Many women after the first or even the second date ask themselves: “Is he really interested in me?” Believe me, men do this too and it can keep you from the promised call. This does not mean that he does not want to talk to you, it means that he is afraid to call you. At least for now. Just give him time and gather his courage, or … call yourself!

And finally, he is simply not interested in continuing the relationship. This is also possible. Women, as a rule, are happy to communicate with different gentlemen, even if they don’t plan anything serious with them – it’s just that almost any girl never minds chatting or writing a couple of messages! A man, unless of course he is an avid womanizer, behaves differently: when he realizes that he does not have enough attraction to a particular woman, she does not cause strong affection, communication ceases to make sense. From his point of view, calls will only drain his time and resources.

The truth is that men initiate long-term contact only when there is a strong attraction and emotional connection. If these two things are not enough, from their point of view it is not worth the energy cost. Hence the conclusion: if you always initiate contact yourself, and he hardly calls, this is one of the main signs that he is not too interested in a relationship with you.

Calls are hard men’s work

In addition to all of the above, an intermediate option is also possible: before, a man called very often, and then he began to dial your number less often. This may indicate that the nature of your relationship has changed. No matter how much a man is in love, at some point the candy-bouquet period ends, and he begins to call less often than you would like. However, it’s not all bad here! If you have been together for a sufficient amount of time and know how to show attention and love to each other, then after a frank conversation, you will definitely come to an understanding of each other’s needs.

He may not call more often, but you will understand why he does not call, and the stress that you experience because of this will not arise. Or maybe, having learned how important calls are for you, he will no longer forget about them.

By the way, psychologists believe that calling a beloved woman after the end of a romantic period of love is not easy for men – they just come to their senses after strong experiences. This is because, as already mentioned, the stronger sex is somewhat removed from emotions, in this area it is as if at a party, and not at home, and a strong passion seriously disturbs the mental balance of men.

Feel free to vent your annoyance about this if you like. You may not change the fact that calls are hard work for your man, but at least it will allow you to relax.

And it is also worth taking into account that all the above reasons in your particular case may not be suitable due to the well-known fact that a man loves with his eyes, not his ears. Well, he’s not just a fan of verbal communication!

And there are good reasons for this: as anthropologists have established, men of antiquity have been hunters for 84 thousand generations, so their visual sensations are many times more developed than auditory ones. And talking on the phone is auditory communication, and it’s not the fault of a man that he cannot fully merge into it and does not even have a need for it.

Women, in turn, have been actively using their auditory senses since ancient times to talk to each other while preparing food and to communicate with children. Therefore, they like to communicate on the phone – for the weaker sex it is not a problem at all to spend a lot of time just chatting. Men, on the other hand, usually use the phone in connection with work or obtaining information.

And finally, your man may not call because he is focused on business, career, or anything else related to advancing his position in society. There are individuals for whom such activity is a matter of life or death, it is so important from their point of view. But that doesn’t mean you’re not important! You can take this advice as a joke, but if you are dating such a person, then perhaps you should turn a blind eye to rare calls, because the hour is not even when you become the wife of an oligarch or president.

Opinion

Regina Chebotarevskaya, psychologist:

– When a man knows that he is obliged to call, he automatically subconsciously avoids it. Because it challenges his personal boundaries, which makes him anxious. Men, with rare exceptions, do not want to feel pressured.

So the best solution to this issue is the simplest – do not put pressure on him. For example, if he says he will call you on Tuesday, and you call or text him at 8 am that same Tuesday, he thinks, “Why couldn’t she wait? I said I would call her…”

All you have to do is calm down and let things take their course. When he realizes that no one is after him “with a net”, he will most likely call you. And he will probably do his best to meet you again.